Mother’s Day can be a triggersome holiday for mothers, fathers, the motherless, the childless, wounded parents and wounded children still finding their way through the Mother-labyrinth.
Honoring our primary connection is not really so much about flowers and brunch in our Sunday best. It’s far more emotional. Let’s see what can be done to ease the intensity of what can sometimes be a loaded time of yearning and revisitation of pain at a national level. Mama Virgo has a plan.
Have you ever spent the holiday wanting something more from your loved ones around the mother piece? It’s not an easy day for me and many I know. Collectively, there are some wounds which seem to rear up right about now. Breathe easy knowing you are not alone.
Start the week with the prayer below.
Remember that you are sacred, my friend.
If you love nature, the Divine Mother is always ready to celebrate with you. The world needs a lot of mothers. Not all-good, fairy-tale mothers, but real, good-enough mothers (who are frequently trying to Find Their Keys). She has a beautiful way of comforting us and exampling.
We began a new tradition a few years ago after a randy bull poked through our back fence and my idealized day of togetherness was botched. Mother’s Day hell had broken loose.
It was quite hilarious after hard moments of trying to reconcile what I wanted with what was instead unfolding. We did well by creating a do-over. That meant setting aside a future day to celebrate. So hard in the moment and so easy once we declared it was necessary. Those tight moments can be so hard.
I also realized in this process that I actually need to tell my people EXACTLY how I wanted to be celebrated.
Didn’t they KNOW me?
Did I seriously have to explain it all to them?
Wouldn’t that take the fun out of it?
With the broken-fence buzzkill upon me, I decided to be more responsible for how I wanted to be honored. I discovered that it’s actually okay for there to be a day that was ALL ABOUT ME, which was a level of intimacy I had a hard time asking for.
Consider this to make progress:
Can you enjoy a day that’s all about you?
What comes up when you imagine it?
Do you try to squirm out of it?
How do you like to be honored?
Do you like prosy cards or breakfast in bed?
Someone else to cook? What foods?
Do you like rounds of appreciations to be given to you?
Do you want to talk about the demands and joys of being the nourisher?
Will you make the time to share your dreams?
Are you willing to make it easier on your people who may want very much to help you feel honored by telling them what you think would make a beautiful and special Mother’s Day?
Are you willing to create it for yourself?
I hope that it will be possible to have an amazing celebration no matter the circumstances!
If Mother’s Day is full of triggers beyond setting up a satisfying day, consider walking yourself through Part One of Transforming the Mother Wound, now available as a self-study PDF.
There’s a beautiful seed planting ritual at the end, perfect for spending Mother’s Day planting new ways of nurturing, guiding, protecting and nourishing.
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Sending hugs throughout the blogosphere..xo